Mother’s Day 2017 started out with the boys scurrying around with their homemade cards and origami flowers while I enjoyed a prolonged snuggle with my Snoogle, our old pregnancy pillow that we miraculously didn’t throw out over the years because Kevin liked it for himself.
The boys presented me with their bounty and also did their Mother’s Day choreography to Boyz II Men’s “Mama you Know I Love You,” directed by Daddy since 2015. Kevin made me a veggie omelette, which Ellis also nibbled on.
Micah’s one gift was a handmade heart that said, “I love you so much it’s as easy as drawing a heart.” He also added, “And you’re also easy to draw, Mommy, because I’m good at drawing fat people now.”
We went to church and all the adult females were gifted with a single pink carnation. Ellis asked, “But Mommy, why you take the flower when you said we can’t buy you any kind of plant because then you have to take care of it?”
Pastor Rich Villodas spoke from Ephesians 3:20:
20 Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, 21 to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.
Now he pointed out that though many focus on “immeasurably more” as in blessings in our personal lives, the passage is actually referring to how God can bring opposing groups together, immeasurably more than we ever imagined.
But I was marinating in the “immeasurably more” as in more blessed than I’d ever imagined. There were two times in my life where I struggled with a debilitating depression.
While in the pit, I informed my parents that fine, I will stay alive because I have to but that I won’t ever thrive in this here life. Sorry for being so broken and such a burden but you guys will have to take care of me for the rest of my life because of the darkness I just can’t emerge from. As a parent now, I think about how devastating that would be to hear from your child who “should” be having a blast in those much anticipated college years.
Talk about immeasurably more than I ever imagined. Despite those earlier dark times and even tough times in more recent years as we struggled in our marriage, here I was, sitting in the balcony at my colorful church in Queens, NYC, with a bonus baby in my belly, my two sons who crack me up daily, and a husband who just may be the Most Reviled husband for making others look bad.
But I have to put myself on blast as the day took a different turn. I swear I was thinking about my Immeasurably More Blessed status even as we drove to Brooklyn for the Mother’s Day Brunch that Kevin had reserved.
On the way there, Ellis warned us he was getting carsick so we parked very far from the restaurant to get him some fresh air. Whew, vomit averted. We walked many blocks to the restaurant. One block before the restaurant, Ellis gagged and bent over, vomiting onto the sidewalk, like a little man hungover. Passersby commented, “Aww poor kid.”
As far as vomit goes, this was ideal. Sidewalk vomit, only a mild spittle on my shoes.
I don’t know if my bad attitude started brewing then but once I saw the set menu, I went from basking in my Immeasurably More Blessed status to griping for Immeasurably More than the limited fancy egg or samich on the menu. I still don’t know how I went from beyond grateful to pissed off so fast.
I started getting crabby as the boys fought over the phone, which I had hoped would not have made its appearance but Kevin was worried about Ellis’ stomach so he thought it’d be a good distraction. Then I noticed all this glassware on the table that no one else seemed to be mindful of while I could picture spills in slow motion.
No kids’ menu so they were gonna have to order same overpriced egg or samich from the adult set menu. The waiter said he would bring the kids some pistachio ice cream for their dessert later and because we were harried, we both said, “Yum.” Then I called him back to say, “Oops, he’s allergic.”
My attitude spiraled down from there, as I thought, “Man, I wanted to just tag along today. Clearly, I can’t just be passive for one day. Mama still has to be hyper-vigilant.” Again, unfair since Kevin totally holds it down so that I can mostly be passive.
Ellis remarked, “Mommy, you MEAN on Mother’s Day.”
I just wanted to confess this Mother’s Day attitude that I later apologized for. I dunno if it was the hyped up holiday or my hormones, but even at my most grateful, I jacked up AGAIN. I might have stayed up too late the night before, finally trying to catch “Catastrophe” with Kevin, or I just had too high expectations, unbeknownst to me.
After I apologized, I asked Kevin to not surprise me next year as his veggie omelette was way better than the $40 egg I had at Glassware Galore Restaurant. He reminded me that last year I had requested brunch ambience aka White Papple ambience, so that is why he chose this place but that next year, I can chime in since my cravings are ever-changing.
Anyone else’s Mother’s Day take a topsy turvy turn?